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Dear Cancer,


Love, Vanessa


The Waiting Game

Updated: Mar 4, 2021

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Dear Cancer,
This photo of my husband and I was taken before a friend’s wedding. At the time, I was in the middle of having testing done to see if I had breast cancer. Waiting is probably one of the hardest things to do, especially when you have a good reason to worry. I was told a spot showed up on my annual MRI, but not on my mammogram. I had to have more testing done, as well as a biopsy. Waiting for these results was so hard, and was terrifying-- it seemed like time just stood still as I waited. Keeping myself busy during this time really helped. I continued on with my life as best I could, and continued to do fun things I had planned. Here are some things that helped me, I hope they can help you too: Acknowledge your feelings
Admitting the many different feelings you may be experiencing is important-- repressing these feelings and emotions is no good for anyone! Let them out-- find some sort of outlet that allows you to blow off steam, or helps you to centre yourself. Keep yourself as busy as possible
There is nothing worse then being at home doing nothing. This is when our minds tend to wonder and we often think the absolute worst. Try to keep yourself busy if you can. Call your doctor to check in
It doesn’t hurt to check in to see if results are in yet. The sooner you know, the sooner your mind can be at ease, or can focus on making a plan. Do some deep breathing
Try some meditating videos on youtube, or use an app. Focusing on the present moment is better than worrying about the future. Lean on the ones you love for support
The waiting game can be very challenging. Reach out to family and friends if you need to talk. It’s good to get your feelings off of your chest. Think positive and have hope
A cancer diagnosis is devastating, but always have hope and never give up--you are so much stronger than you think! Use visualization
Try to imagine that you are healed. Imagine a white light travelling through your healthy body. Try saying some affirmations
Something I like to say to myself now is, “I am healthy, and I am strong.” This is something that I say often to remind myself what I have overcome, and to imagine my body is as healthy as possible. You can try this, or another phrase that works for you. Exercise
Exercising is a great way to get out any anger or frustration. Exercise also gives you endorphins, and these endorphins can make you feel happier. I know that after a good workout I always feel great! You can’t change the results
Of course you already know this. But try to remember -- it is what it is. You will get through it! Do you have any other advice to add to my list? Comment below! Love, Vanessa
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Great advice. I would add these same tips are also very useful post surgery to help with your personal recovery as many of us must learn to live with our new normal lives, whatever it may be. Thanks 🙏🏻

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